Guest Blog by my amazing wife.

  Seeing should equate to believing, or at least that is what common sense would lead you to think.  But in an age where there is a greater ability to photographically document more of our world and what happens in it than any other time in history, almost the opposite is in fact true.  Seeing isn’t necessarily believing and critical thinking and skepticism should almost always play a role.  Ever heard of Photoshop?  Case in point…..I am a habitual oversharer of my children on social media and I cannot remember the last time I posted a daily photo of my children that I hadn’t digitally altered. Now granted, my transgressions are minor…..a little brightness here, a little more color contrast there.  But a photo taken out of the context in which it was taken and posted for my friends and family is a different experience for them than it was for me in the moment.  So why do I take the time and effort to post them at all?  Well that is a whole different story altogether. My children are what are affectionately known as Military brats. They are the children of an active duty Army officer and do not know the stability of a more ‘normal’ existence.  In his third year of life, my son has already lived in three different states.  My daughter had lived in two states by the age of 7 months. We already have family conversations of our other houses and other cars and other things we used to do in those places.  So posting pictures of my children in their every day activities accomplishes three very different missions.  For them, it is effectively their baby book that gives them some roots.  They will be able to look back and see where they’ve been, what they’ve done, who they’ve known and those photos will trigger memories that they may have not otherwise remembered.  And being able to look back and see the kind of life you have had makes being unmoored to one place less…scary. Almost as important, the photos allow their extended family (i.e. Nanas and Bopbops) who are scattered around the world the ability to feel part of their lives.  They get to see them grow on a daily basis and not just the once a year they may see them in person. They get to follow their triumphs and challenges, and these shared experiences give them not only something to talk about, but ways to build bonds. What could possibly be more important as a parent of gypsy children than a way to build consistency and connections with people?  And last but certainly not least, I often refer to my friends and family on social media as my online village, and the fact that they are actively and enthusiastically engaged in my children’s lives brings me endless joy.  Seeing and believing is in the eye of the beholder, and in this case the same photo of my children will 1) create memories for them, 2) cultivate bonds with people around the world who love them and 3) allow me to be part of a supportive and encouraging community.  No matter what context you look at that in, it’s a win! 

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